Here’s a conversation that I have had several times (in slightly different forms) in the past few weeks:
“So, who are you supporting for the next UUA [Unitarian Universalist Association] president?” someone says to me.
“Well,” I say, “I’m not supporting either one, but I think I know who I’ll vote for.”
“I feel the same way,” says the other person. “I can’t say I’m supporting anyone….”
“So who are you going to vote for?” I say.
“I’m going to vote for Laurel Hallman,” says the other person, “not because I think she’s any better than Peter Morales — i don’t think that — but because I think it’s time for a woman to be UUA president.”
“I’m going to vote for Peter Morales,” I say, “not because I think he’s any better than Laurel Hallman — he’s not — but because I think it’s time for a UUA president who is not the choice of the UUA power elite.”
We sit in silence for a moment or two.
I break the silence: “It really is past time for a woman.”
The other person says almost simultaneously: “We really do need someone who is not part of the UUA power elite.”
Then we both agree that both candidates are perfectly capable, that neither one of them would actually change things much, that we both might change our minds before the election, and that neither one of us actually supports either candidate.
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I have also had the following conversation a few times in the past few weeks.
“So, who are you supporting for the next UUA president?” someone says to me.
“Well,” I say, “I’m not supporting either one, but I think I know who I’ll vote for.”
“Well, I don’t really want to make this public, but I know who I’m supporting,” says the other person.
“So who are you supporting?” I ask.
“I’m supporting Peter Morales,” says the other person, “but I don’t want to go public with my support because Peter has pretty much promised me that he will implement my [insert innovative growth program here]. So I don’t want to come out as supporting him, because if Laurel Hallman gets elected, if it doesn’t come out who I vote for then maybe she will consider my [insert innovative growth program here].”
We sit in silence for a while.
“Too bad it has come to this,” I say.
“Yeah, it’s all about politics and who you know and who you support,” says the other person.
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There’s an old saying that goes something like this: if the head of a nail sticks up, it will get noticed and hammered down; so don’t be like the head of a nail, don’t do anything to get noticed. It feels to me as though supporting one or the other of the UUA presidential candidates in this election is a good way to get hammered down. I’m not blaming the candidates, but their supporters are so rabid, and they are so insistent on asking you to support one or the other. And after the election I do have the feeling that those who support the winner will be blessed with smiles and maybe favors, while those who support the loser will be cast out away from the denominational center into the wilderness. This is what happened in the last UUA presidential election; why would it not happen once again?
Therefore, I want to avoid UUA presidential politics like the plague. I want to go off and serve in a nice local congregation, and do good things there and in the surrounding community, and nurture my own spiritual life, and spend time with my partner Carol, and enjoy life. Call me chicken, but I support neither UUA presidential candidate — listen carefully — neither one of them.
Update: Responding to a comment below, I’m adding a disclaimer: I don’t think either Peter Morales or Laurel Hallman has a vengeful bone in their bodies — but I know from experience that the system is vengeful, and has a long memory, and does not value those who speak out on the “wrong” side of an issue in denominational politics.